Category: Let's talk
I'm invited to a former classmate's wedding in a few months and have thought of an appropriate gift that will require a certain amount of tact. This person has screwed me over a number of ways in the past and so I'm trying to come up with something that says shows a hint of my derission without being completely obvious. As a gentleman, not giving a gift is totally out of the question...any creative suggestions? Is this the time to say for a day or two to let the grudge go and give generously expecting a similar gift when its my turn for nuptuals?
…personally my thots are that if one can not give from the goodness of their being then might be better to give no gift at all. Maybe this ought to be a time for letting things go between you and your former roommate, allowing for the each of you to go your separate ways, unless you desire to make amends…but if only for one or two days…nah, let it go. A wedding ought to be a time of love and sharing…and as far as giving, doing so because you truly desire to with no thot of return.
I agree with CG on this one. Why give a gift if it's not from the bottom of your heart? And better yet, if you've been screwed over so many times, why even bother going to the wedding? If you can't forgive him for the things he's done, just write him out of your life. No questions asked.
Remember, the gift is not just for him but for both he and his new bride - something meant to help them start their new lives together. Maybe you should save the "F you" gift for a birthday or Christmas gift.